"We're Cultured!" Thursdays: Swinging the extremes

I remember the time when Spice Girls was the absolute craze, and how they talk about girl power, and how Sporty Spice (Melanie C) has a tattoo on her arm writing "女力" - "girl power" in literally Chinese translation. And that in itself is funny, because well, that term never quite existed in the Chinese society, and thus putting the Chinese word together made it an irony in itself.

And that was probably my first major impression on the impact of feminism in our society. (Note: Wikipedia has an extensive article on feminism, which is much more accurate and sound that what my definition of feminism is, so.. yea. But that wasn't really my point anyway. Lol.)

So then, we have the ladies who say that we can do it all without the men. "Who needs men? Bah!" We fight for equal rights, believing that we can do everything a man can. (Which I think is really pretty much not true)


On the other end of the spectrum, there is the 'needy girl' - more distressed and desperate than the damsel in distress, more needy and insecure than a needs assessment can assess. You can literally identify them once you spot them really, the air of vulnerability and weakness can probably gets to your nose before you see them.


I know those were really really bad stereotypes of women and I apologise. I can identify in myself parts where I want to stand for feminism, and parts I just want to be a damsel in distress. I do not disagree on the stand of feminism because it has indeed liberated women to be so much more than the society allows them to be. But at the end of the day, the actions, behavior displayed just stemmed from thoughts sprouted from something deeper inside.

I propose the word 'insecurity'.


Insecurity, in my opinion, stems from not knowing our identity in Christ. And it manifests in either of the extreme ways - finding security in a facade that 'I don't need security' or desperate seeking it.

I've struggled with that, and I can imagine that a lot of other sisters out there do so as well. There's always part of us we are insecure about - my nose, my arms/thighs, the way I walk, the way I talk, the way I laugh, and so much more.

God says it so loud and clear that He loves us despite who and how we are. But the devil likes to tell us otherwise, that we're not beautiful enough, that we're not funny enough, we're not likable enough. From there, comes the insecurity and its manifestations in our actions - flinches to the way we talk/walk/dress/etc.

Ignore the voice of the devil, and tune in to what He says about you - beautiful, lovely, totally worth dying for. Then we might flourish into what He intended us to be, in all security in the knowledge that He thinks that we're hot. (:

Incomparable, unchangeable
You see the depths of my heart and You love me the same
You are amazing God
Indescribable - Chris Tomlin