I think today's Wednesday post might be the last one I'm doing for quite a while. After so many weeks of writing Wednesday posts (as Jess did her love languages series), it feels like there's really nothing much to write anymore. I suppose, the only thing is that, God still never fails to amaze me.
In a way, as much as our human relationships are complex beings nearly able to exist by its own, our relationship with God can be so much more than that. He, after all, created our human relationships. Also, our human relationships, could always in a way, reflect some aspect of the relationship between God and (wo)man.
I was just thinking about it in the shower, how when say we will start building a relationship up and start falling 'hopelessly in love', a lot of times beyond much rhyme or reason. (Perhaps explains for girls like the bad boys although they know full well that they are bad for them, although I personally like to believe that the good guys end last.) Very possibly at that point of time, the heart rules wayyyyy over the head, much persuasion at that stage could very likely not get us out of that state of being 'in love'.
I suppose the state of being 'in love' (I'm not sure why I'm putting 'in love' in quotation marks, but I think it'll sort out in a while.) makes us do a lot of irrational stuff. Perhaps when we were younger, to spend time with our lover and rebel against the parents, to say 'I will love you for the rest of my life' without truly understanding or meaning it, the likes. When we grow older, we fail to see why this jobless bummer is not the man for my life at this moment. Bringing it to the extremes, that state of 'I'm doing this because I love him/her' could lead us to pre-marital sex, changing our lifestyle to totally suit his/hers, or become an accomplice to a crime. (Don't laugh! I watch Crime Night and all that! It's true!)
God commanded us to love Him with all our heart, soul, mind, strength (Matt 22:37), but it is not all blind. The most outward expression of loving God is worshiping Him, (and its not sing-song Sunday worship, it is the glorifying God every day of the week kind of worship) and in John 4, Jesus tells of how worshipers must worship in spirit and in truth, and not worship based on feelings and whatever I want to believe to be true.
Wouldn't that say that loving God/worship is but a sane, and conscious activity, since it has to be rooted from deep within and based on truth?
Perhaps then, when we bring this back to our human relationships, we might see a new perspective in how we might fall 'in love'.
I believe that the right love (for the man of my life) will resonate in us, not just the emotions on overrun. but something deeper - a peace within that transcends all understanding (Phil 4:7), a yes from my God-appointed authorities in my life, and knowing fully well that God has not been replaced as number one in my life.
I believe that it will be built on the basis of truth and the truth of God's word, will possibly not an entirely irrational thing (although I do acknowledge that God works in mysterious and sometimes humorous ways.)
Then maybe with all these as foundations, our emotions and love can flourish in a healthy way. And what you have will be a love story God authored. (:
Oh, and happy belated Valentine's Day. <3
Wednesday, February 18, 2009
I <3 Wednesdays: Love is not blind
Posted by ange at 1:18 AM
Labels: I heart Wednesdays
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someone once told me that loving another person is a decision, but falling in love is a feeling.
when we make the decision to love someone, it is made consciously and devoid of feeling, like how we make a decision to clean the house, or walk the dog. feelings might be attached to it, depending on how you feel towards that person, but the decision itself has not feeling.
falling in love however, is only a feeling. euphoria, fuzziness, happiness, all these come with falling in love. one day, you're not in love, the next you've fallen in love.
I love my wife. and that is a decision that i have made for the rest of my life. but i'm not always in love with her. sometimes, she annoys me. sometimes she makes life difficult for me. but i still love her. and that decision will always rule over the feelings.
i can't understand how couples break up or divorce because "we're not in love anymore" they're confusing the feeling OF love with the commitment TO love.
i'm a firm believer in the commitment and decision to love. it sounds cold, clinical. but it gets results. making a decision like that, mountains can be conquered, oceans can be crossed, nothing can separate the two of you, because both have decided to stick it through, hard time or good.
and with a decision to love comes a feeling of love. because you have made a decision to love the other, you want to make their life better. and because their life is better they get a feeling of love from you and thus will reciprocate, resulting in you feeling loved!
Jesus made a decision to love us while we were still sinners. so he died for us. that action of love made our lives eternally better, and because of that we feel loved. because we feel loved, we want to reciprocate and thus our faith is born!
let me say your blog is great. Jess, Ange (even though we haven't met), and anyone else who contributes. it makes me think, and revisit some of the things i've learned in the past. it's a great pillar of faith for us Christians who sometimes feel a little lost in this mire of the world. it's just good to know that there is someone out there who has questions too, but is willing to hold a light however small it may be.
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