I <3 Wednesdays: (Conspiracy) Theories

Someone was explaining to me the dynamics of the two ladders between a guy and a girl. You have your "Friends" Ladder and your "Potentials" Ladder and when you meet someone of the opposite sex, they're instantly plopped onto one of the two.

Potentials Ladder -----> If a guy lands here from the beginning, the guy can stay on here as long as she wants him to and he has the ability to move back and forth between the ladders. If he finds himself on the Friends Ladder, he has a chance to move back onto the Potentials Ladder. Dual residency!

Friends Ladder ----> guy lands here and its permanent residency territory. The biggest risk he will ever take in life is to try to jump ladders to the Potentials Ladder and that passage is fraught with dangers of the crash-and-burn variety. It ain't for the faint-hearted! There are few things in life as satisfying as making that jump successfully but woe betide the poor sod who gets that application rejected.

This is a rather grey and vague theory however- there are plenty of other variables and circumstances. However, the theorist also told me that this relationship only works if the girl is the central point and the guys are on the ladders. With guys, she said- both ladders are one and the same HAHAHAHA. Feel free to correct her.

When it comes down to it though, everyone's situation is different, so much so that theories have no place in real life. The "Harry Met Sally" theory (that guys and girls cannot be friends without sex getting in the way), the "Perfect One-designed-for-me" theory (that the Perfect Man is out there somewhere and it's only a matter of finding each other within the right time frame) and the "Oedipal Complex" (where a guy searches for someone that reflects his mother and a girl looks for someone like her father), taken from the famous Greek tragedy of Oedipus who kills his father and marries his mother (its very psycho-analytical stuff)- all these theories pale in significance to the Christian fact that guys (in the church atmosphere anyway) are our brothers and should be treated as such (no, not with thinly veiled contempt at their smelly, disgusting habits) with respect and familial love.

Does it get complicated, more so than it already is, if we see all men as brothers-in-Christ? Or does it get easier? Ange has "kindly" given me next Wednesday's post as well so give me some opinions and I'll write more about the "B-i-C" syndrome next week!